We all know the dating world can be very complicated; however, it can be even worse for a guy who has little ones at home. While it is very honorable to take over the responsibility of raising your children full time, many women try to stay clear of single dads who are on the dating scene. Whether you feel the following reasons are understandable or ridiculous, here are the top 5 reasons why a woman would be hesitant to get involved with a man who has children:
1. She wants her partner’s kids to be her first
Women want their first child to be their partners first child and they might avoid having a relationship with a single dad because she wants all those milestones of growing up to be shared mutually between her and her children’s father.
2. She doesn’t want your kids
A woman may not want a ready-made family. Bearing her own children may be an important part of her life plan and she doesn’t want to start out as a stepmother when she could have her own biological children.
3. She wants you all to herself
When it comes to dating, a woman wants to feel that she is the number one person in your life and that her needs come first. With a single dad, this isn’t the case. With little ones around the house, you can’t completely let go and do wild, spontaneous things like you might at the beginning of a relationship without kids. Your commitments to your kids will seriously cut in to your couple time and she doesn’t want to compete with your kids for your time, affection and attention.
4. She doesn’t want to deal with baggage
The end of a relationship is always hard and the situation with his kids’ mom probably left plenty of issues behind.
Because of this, a woman may think that a single dad will have lots of emotional baggage because of his loss — whether he’s single because of divorce or death. If the mother of your children is still in the picture, the fact that there will always be another woman in your life who will be hanging around may bother her.
5. She doesn’t want kids at all
The most obvious reason that a woman would not date a single dad is that she just doesn’t like kids. Contrary to popular belief, there are plenty of women out there who don’t care for children for various reasons. Think about if–if she has never pictured herself as a mom, becoming a step-mom probably isn’t in the cards either.
The better you understand these reasons, the easier it’ll be for you to put a woman’s fears to rest and to have a chance at a real relationship. On the other hand, you might find that she’s too immature to handle your situation. In that case, you should move on and find someone that will embrace a guy with a big enough heart to include many people in his care.
Olderbutwiser is the author of Dating For Today’s Man — The Online Dating and Relationship Guide For Men. More articles can be found at Dating For Today’s Man.