No matter whom you are and how strong your constitution; if you are a new single parent the world can appear very bewildering to you. You don’t know how you will ever manage. You don’t know how you will support your single family on a budget which has suddenly been halved. You are in the midst of a custody dispute and your ex-husband seems to be winning the battle in court. Your friends have all disappeared because you had all come to know each other through your ex-husband. You desperately need support and someone who can listen to you, and suggest the best way forward. You are also wondering if it is worth your while joining a support group as you don’t want strangers to know your personal business. My first reaction to that is that you should right away forget about people knowing your business. Joining a support group is about sharing; it’s part of the landscape. Single parents have many of the same things in common, and sharing their stories can be healthy and beneficial.
Tips for easing into your new situation
No matter what part of the city you live in, there will be a support group near you. Join one and attend the meetings. Listen to other people’s stories; it will make you feel better about your own situation. You know the saying: misery likes company. Well, this is not quite the same thing, but almost so. There is comfort in knowing you are not alone. It also makes you feel part of the human race to know that these things have not only happened to you. Stay for coffee or tea after the meeting is over and speak to some people and perhaps even hook up with someone you can comfortably talk to. If she is also newly single, you will have much in common. Single parents all face the same challenges.
You may also go to church or synagogue where they might have a support group. You never feel alone when you are surrounded by other people with the same problems and needs as you. Make a point not to talk too much about you and instead ask about him or her. A single parent can easily appear self-absorbed when they are overwhelmed with concerns and fear.
Don’t neglect your children through this very trying time. They have been subjected to a traumatic event in their life. It is easy to lose sight of their emotional needs when you yourself are overcome by fear.
Use the internet and check out support groups. Yahoo has many single parenting groups where you can join in and email other single parents. Google the words, single parent groups, and you will be shocked by how many groups pop up.
Besides all the tips above, if you yourself are a stay-at-home single parent who needs financial assistance, you can also apply for a Pell grant which is awarded up to $ 5,500 provided you qualify and have a computer and an internet connection.
Learn how to be more effective single parent families by visiting www.singleparentcenter.net and read about single parenting statistics and how to deal with problem children.